The Pressure

How much do you really know?



At For Our Daughters, Inc., our motto is “If you know better, you can do better.”  We realize that the concerns with young women are not always evident and we believe that being empowered with information helps us to understand the current situation and issues young girls face on a daily basis.

What’s the importance in knowing my family history?

Knowing one’s family medical history allows a person to take steps to reduce his or her risk for potential health issues.  For people at an increased risk of certain cancers, healthcare professionals may recommend more frequent screening (such as mammography or colonoscopy) starting at an earlier age.  Healthcare providers may also encourage regular checkups or testing for people with a medical condition that runs in their family.

How am I supposed to get this information?

The easiest way to get information about family medical history is to talk to relatives about their health.  Have they had any medical problems, and when did they occur?  A family gathering could be a good time to discuss these issues.  Additionally, obtaining medical records and other documents (such as obituaries and death certificates) can help complete a family medical history.  It is important to keep this information up-to-date and share it with a healthcare professional regularly.  (


How can I effectively communicate with my teenager?


Start off with a clean slate

Drop the expectations

Respectful listening

Stay calm

Share your stories



Believe it or not, our daughters want to hear about our experiences and know that what they are experiencing is normal!

Things You & Your Daughter Should Know

Family Communication

According to the Examiner, the top wish among all girls is for their parents to communicate better with them which includes, more frequent and more open conversations, as well as discussions about what is happening in their own lives.

As a Result of the Media

According to a 2010 study:

1) 81 percent of girls would rather see “real” or “natural” photos of models than touched-up, airbrushed versions, yet 47 percent say fashion magazines give them a body image to strive for.
(Girl Scouts of the USA and The Dove Self-Esteem Fund)

2) 63 percent of girls think the body image represented by the fashion industry is unrealistic and 47 percent think it is unhealthy, yet 60 percent say that they compare their bodies to fashion models, 48 percent wish they were as skinny as the models in fashion magazines, and 31 percent of girls admit to starving themselves or refusing to eat as a strategy to lose weight.
(Girl Scouts of the USA and The Dove Self-Esteem Fund)

Body Image

More than 90% of girls – 15 to 17 years – want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance, with body weight ranking the highest.

Nearly a quarter of girls age 15-17 would consider undergoing plastic surgery.

Middle School

By middle school, 40-70 percent of girls are dissatisfied with two or more parts of their body, and body satisfaction hits rock bottom between the ages of 12 and 15.
(Cash, Thomas F., and Thomas Pruzinsky. Body Image: A Handbook of Theory, Research, and Clinical Practice. New York: Guilford, 2002. Print.)

80% of 10-year-old girls have dieted. 90% of high school junior and senior women diet regularly. Young girls are more afraid of becoming fat than they are of nuclear war, cancer, or losing their parents.

High School

Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behavior. Among high school students, 44% of girls are attempting to lose weight. Over 70% of girls age 15 to 17 avoid normal daily activities, such as attending school, when they feel bad about their looks.

Brighten someone’s day by posting encouraging messages on your school’s bathroom mirrors.